About This Lesson
In this short film, Nessa anonymously runs a social media page called It’s Giving Red Flags under the name “The Ref.” Through this page, she encourages peers to share their relationship stories, calling out manipulative or controlling behaviors and showing how consent often comes into question. As Nessa processes these submissions, she begins to recognize red flags in her own relationship.
The film highlights scenarios that are often overlooked in mainstream, heteronormative portrayals of consent and emphasizes how easily harmful dynamics can be missed in real life. By sparking honest conversations, It’s Giving Red Flags invites students to reflect on how to identify red flags, disrupt unhealthy patterns, and prevent toxic relationships.
